I’m soaking wet, standing in the middle of a
field in Dayton, Ohio as rain is pouring down…and all I see around me is mud. It is in this moment that it
finally hits me…“I’ve made a horrible mistake...”
I am many things, but one descriptor phrase is: "I’m a pusher". Read on to learn how I came about this self-realization in ministry and how I found
myself standing in a field of mud.
Let’s rewind to the Spring of 2007, a man who
can only be described as the jolliest person’ besides good ole St. Nick was
digging a post hole in order to build a tree house. This isn’t your typical, back
yard tree house, this was a tree house built for a community. The man’s name
was David Helmers and he was the architect and designed this tree house.
David Helmers is working hard digging his
hole for this massive 20’ pole that would be one of 8 to hold up the tree
house. This tree house is right in the heart of this community known as el
dumpe in Tijuana, Mexico – the city dump. Some time ago, the dump stop being
used for trash because so many of the poorest of the poor in Tijuana had no
where to go, very little resources, and found themselves on the edge of
society. The only place they could find refuge was in this place where they
could go through the left overs from others in order to build shelter. The
people who live here are, like the trash that surrounds them, the discarded
members of society.
I try to avoid clichés like “it’s a God
thing” but there is no other way to describe what happens next. As David was
breaking a sweat, digging this hole he finds that he is not hitting dirt with
his shovel. He quickly realizes he’s hitting a book. He immediately recognizes
one of the words in the title: “arquitectura”. David, even though he only knows
maybe five words in Spanish he was certain this book was about architecture.
Can you believe it?! An architect from Ohio, just so happens to travel down to
Tijuana, Mexico for his first ever mission trip finds this book.
Not knowing a lick of Spanish got his hands
on the English version of the book he found: Architecture for the Poor: An Experiment in Rural Egypt written by
Hassan Fathy. He wasn’t able to put the book down. After a quick read and doing
more research, David believed that houses could be built in Mexico using Adobe
mud bricks.
Adobe mud bricks were literally the building
blocks of many ancient civilizations, and continue to be used today. Adobe is a
non-fired sun-dried mud bricks consisting of material found on earth
(combinations of organic material including dirt, clay, straw, and water). Building
with adobe mud bricks was a common prehistoric practice in arid and semi-arid
lands around the world – including in Mexico. The process of making adobe
bricks is sustainable, affordable, and easily learned.
Now I entered the picture that fall in 2007,
a few months after David first went to Mexico and found the book that changed
his life. I started working with David’s church as part of the Student Ministry
team at the age of 21 when I was still in college and long before seminary and
ordination was even on my radar. I met David and we really hit it off. He got
even more excited to learn that I had my own history with the ministries in
Tijuana, Mexico starting from the age of 14 and we immediately started dreaming.
In Tina Fey’s Bossypants she reveals
a concept from the world of improv comedy that I’ve worked to incorporate in my
life. It’s called simply “yes and.” It means first saying “yes” to, then
building and improving upon what is given. Conversations with David tended to
have a lot of “yes and’s” in them.
David and I started focusing on the idea of
using adobe mud bricks instead of wood to build homes for the people living in
Tijuana’s former dump. We felt that there were many benefits of building with
adobe mud bricks on mission trips.
- Mud bricks cannot be made during the duration of the trip; the mud bricks must be formed and dried before the team even touches down on the mission field. This results in spending the money locally to people in relationship with the group or organization rather than the Home Depot of Mexico or other chain businesses.
- More people would be able to help on the work site. While each person will need to learn the process and rhythm of building with mud bricks, it takes little to no prior skill or knowledge. This allows the children, teenagers, and other adults from the area work on the construction site.
- Finally, the cost is significantly cheaper than building with other materials, allowing more churches and organizations to be able to participate in or support an international trip. David estimated that it would cost $2,000 to build a house out of adobe mud bricks whereas we were spending $6,500-7,000 to build a house out of wood.
We were so excited to go down the next time
to present our idea and we were just crushed that after the presentation we
were told “No that is never going to work.” I realized then that not every one
has the “yes and” mantra that I’ve come to live by.
That should have been the end of the story,
but not being able to fight off my natural pusher ways we decided that if we
just showed them it could work, perhaps people would be open to this different
way of building houses.
One of the other things that the leadership
in Mexico brought up was that they feared that the adobe bricks would not hold
up long term like concrete, brick, or wood. We decided to test out the durability
of mud bricks in Ohio by building a wall and a dog house in order to see how it
would hold up over a year’s time.
While the mud brick process was indeed easy,
especially with willing and hardworking teenagers and adults, the summer rain
proved to be detrimental to the project. As soon as over one hundred bricks were
formed, it began to downpour. Rain poured for three days straight, completely
destroying the one hundred mud bricks.
Looking back, I realized how hard I pushed.
This all could have been easily avoided if we didn’t overlook one of the
“cardinal rules” of missions. Even from the beginning, none of the
conversations and planning involved the people we were in relationship with
Tijuana right away. I was pushing and we didn’t even know it because we failed
to include the perspectives and experiences of the very people we wanted to
serve.
I realized just how hard I pushed for this experiment
to happen, I pushed companies and people to donate most of the supplies for
what was now a mud pile, I pushed for people to come and take part in this
initiative, and it turned out to be quite the mess. Let it be known that
building with adobe mud bricks in Ohio is not “a thing”.
It took standing in that muddy field to
realize how harmful that mentality and way of going about ministry, especially
missions, could be. Yes, I had the best
of intensions and thought I was doing
the right thing, but by pushing what I believed was best, I had made a real
mess of things. Literally. And VERY publicly.
I was defeated. I was heartbroken. It was
just one more piece of evidence that the way we went about missions was totally
screwed up and backwards. Something had to change – and it wasn’t the people we
were working with. It was us.
I spent a lot of time after that experience
reflecting back on what had led to that point. It wasn’t that we had gotten it
all wrong, in fact I think we got a lot right, but we definitely made mistakes
along the way and in order to move on and evolve it required me to stop pushing
and pump the brakes a little bit.
Standing in the mud field, I realized that I
still had more to learn. However, I think that’s the whole point right? This
could be a story about failure but I’ve come to understand that we only fail
when we fail to learn. This experience provided a learning opportunity that
completely changed the way I went about being in service with others. That’s
one of the key words, “with”. Often in mission and outreach ministries we hear
the prepositions of “to” or “for” but both lack the posture of partnership and
working hand in hand. That’s where my pushing nature kicked in. I felt that I
had something to prove rather than trying to work with the people to see what
their hopes and dreams were for the future of the ministries in Tijuana.
We were trying to be the voice of who we
considered to be voiceless people. But the people we were working with already
had a voice - we just weren’t listening. By pumping the brakes rather than
pushing it offers the chance to be present in the moment on mission trips and
in everyday ministry. Not with a mentality of “doing” but one of “being with”.
By being with people, I have been able to slow down - being people oriented
instead of task oriented - in order to listen and really hear the needs and
dreams of people around me. And often, there is then an invitation to figure
out a way to work side by side in order to accomplish this.
The story of Nehemiah and the rebuilding of
the wall of Jerusalem fully illustrates this new way of being for me. Nehemiah
heard about the state that his homeland was in. Instead of just rushing off to
save the day…Nehemiah was a man who believed in the power of prayer and right
timing and relationships and returned to Jerusalem in order to rebuild the
city. Nehemiah knew that he couldn’t go about this task alone and after being
with and talking with the families he enlisted the help of the people of
Jerusalem in order to quickly repair the wall in 52 days.
A friend of mine from college wrote me a letter
(yes that still happens) and in it he wrote this poem from Lao Tzu, a Chinese
philosopher from the 7th century BC, which sums up Nehemiah’s story
and approach:
"Go to the people, live among them.
Learn from them, plan with them.
Build on what they have.
Teach by showing, learn by doing.
Not relief but release,
And when the task is finish
And when their work is done,
The people will remark,
“We have done it ourselves.”
This is what embodies what being in ministry
with people is all about. I knew all of this intellectually but I had gotten so
caught up in my agenda, my dream that I had forgotten what is really important
– and it is a mission of being. The work is just an excuse to go and create,
build, and sustain relationships. And I would
have truly failed if I failed to learn, humble myself, and return to the basics.
So that’s exactly what I did and continue to do. And since this time, I am no
longer afraid to fail. We have to stop being afraid to fail or redefine or
rethink that word because daring to dream and daring to risk or take the leap
can bring so much positive and beautiful things as so much can come from
failure if we evolve, grow, and move on to the next dream incorporating lessons
learned.
So I’m still a pusher. I just push in
different ways. I push for people, including myself first and foremost, to take
Nehemiah’s story and the poem to heart. To constantly ask how this approach
would play out for each mission trip and in everyday ministry and life? I’ve
come to find for me and I hope for many it is pushing to stop and listen
allowing people to truly be heard, the pushing to always put people and
relationships before task, and the pushing to accomplish the work together. It
is a paradigm shift in mission trips to living out a mission of being not only
abroad but also in everyday life. I have witnessed how this is what transforms
ministry, transforms relationships, and transforms lives.
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